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It’s way too loud! Why don’t we sing the older songs more often?

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Are all these stage lights really necessary? I really hate worshiping in the dark (house lights off)…aren’t we people of the light?!

If you have been leading worship for more than a few months, you have heard at least one (if not all) of these complaints.

Harsh criticism can start early in the worship leader journey.

When I first realized the call to be a worship leader I was 15 years old. I went with the most viable option and started a youth band. As is common with all youth, we liked the music LOUD. This was also a shock considering the congregation was used to a pretty mellow situation.

I can remember it like it was yesterday… immediately after leading worship on a Wednesday night, I was met in the fellowship hall by an older man. He cornered me to have some words.

He said things like, “You do realize the music you are playing does not bring glory to God…don’t you?” and “It is obvious you do not really care about the heart of God when you play music that loud.”

Whoa…it felt like a punch in the face.

I was on fire for God and doing my best to fulfill His call on my life. My heart was pure and I was simply leading worship the way I felt God was leading me.

Sure, it looked quite a bit different than what the church was used to, but I didn’t think that would bother people. Boy, was I wrong.

How to Deal with Opinionated People

The truth is, there will always be opinionated people. They want to be heard because they believe their way is the best way.

Considering they will always be around, I want to give you a few pointers on how to deal with complaints when they come in.

First of all, as a general rule of thumb, complaints should be shelved until the same complaint comes from at least three different people. Otherwise, you will wear yourself out trying to accommodate everyone.

Here are a few examples of how to deal with complaints:

  1. When the complaint is in person – Give them your full attention as they express their viewpoint. Let them say all they want to say and simply respond with, “I respect your concern and will take it into consideration as we move forward.” Remember, arguing in this type of situation is almost never beneficial. There is no reason to try to prove them wrong.
  2. When the complaint comes via email – Don’t reply the moment you read it. Leave it in your inbox and reply the next day. This will help your emotions calm down so you do not say something you regret later. In most cases, it is best to respond with, “Thank you for taking the time to submit your concern. I will take it into consideration as we move forward.”
  3. When the complaint comes from your superior (pastor) – When a request comes from your pastor, it is your responsibility to follow it (whether you agree or not). God has placed a leadership structure within the church and we should honor it. Of course, there is no problem with you respectfully expressing your viewpoint on the matter. But, if the pastor still wants the change made, put on a good attitude and get it done. You might also enjoy: Frustrated With Your Pastor?

If the complainer is still worked up down the line, you may want to meet them for coffee. This will enable you to have a face-to-face conversation about what is going on.

You can share your vision and the reason behind why you do things. Most likely, when they see your true heart (instead of making assumptions) the complaint will disappear.

If there has been a time where you effectively dismantled a complaint, I would love to hear about it! Share your story in the comments below.

You might also enjoy: How to Be an Effective Worship Leader to All Generations

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About the Author

Kade Young

Kade Young brought Collaborate Worship into existence with a dream of helping worship leaders around the world fulfill their calling with excellence. He has been leading worship since 2005, is a graduate of Rhema Bible Training College, and currently the worship leader at NoLimits Church in Owasso, Oklahoma.